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10 Tips on How Wellness Coaches and Life Coaches Solve Problems with Game Theory

Game Theory – Most people think logic and rational thinkers are the best problem solvers. The best Life Coaches and Wellness consultant know that intuition is a powerful tool for finding solutions. Children usually play games as a diversion or for amusement, but as we get older we begin to engage in games of a more serious nature. Many of these games are designed to help us survive, prosper, or win competitively over an opponent or opponents. Other games are created as a means of transcending some obstacle, or to solve a problem. In order to play a game, a person must have some basic skills. Since all games are not necessarily competitive, some games may not require skills to win, but only to play. Such games are known as games of chance.

As with all games, these games are based on some system of interactions between players, or one player and one object, such as a card or a ball. Once you decide to live life as if it is a big game, you have a working model for creating greater benefits such as love, freedom, happiness, spiritual contentment and abundance. In order to win effectively, you must understand which particular game of life you are playing. There are theologians, philosophers, psychologists, politicians, neurobiologists, economic behaviorists, military strategists, athletic coaches, physicists, entrepreneurs and mathematicians who research and study this all day long. We are starting here with a very basic concept. The concept that life is a game and the more you understand the rules of the game and play well, the more you will win the game. In some games, there will only be one winner. In other games, everybody wins. Some people are resistant to the way I have chosen to use the concept of games. They express that using the word “game” to describe something serious like raising a child, having a parent die, or defining how one is supposed to treat starving refugees is disturbing to them. My use of the word “game” to describe a systematic approach to life is not meant to diminish the seriousness of any of these things. Calling each a “game” simply makes it easier for some individuals to grasp these concepts and place the raw life experience associated with each into an understandable form. We all play games daily. Any systematic activity – from table manners to having sex, or going to church, temple, mosque or prayer room – could be considered a game.


There are time-management games, priority-planning games, and goal-development games. We all create formal supportive relationships with others based on a systematic approach to life. These are games as well. Some games are so serious we even create rites, rituals, and ceremonies. For them, games of this type might have rules and guidelines for how they need to be conducted. Governments use the term “war games” to describe a very serious activity with consequences of life and death; there are rules and regulations related to human rights, the treatment of civilians in war, ethical rules in politics, and rules on how to create a wedding or funeral. As you can see from these examples, any organized series of rules and regulations where human interaction is involved can be called a “game.” You can use any word you wish instead of “game”. I’ll continue to use the common phrase, “playing the game of life.” The key to solving any problem is to understand how the problem came to be. One of my books, a translation of the classic Chinese text the Tao te Ching consistently promotes the idea that the best way to deal with a big problem is to address it when it is a small problem. Here are some tips for solving a basic problem: 1. Define the problem 2. Can you solve it alone or do you require experts? 3. Is there a specific group or person, who can make that problem disappear? 4. If there is such a person ask them to remove the obstacle. It is unlikely that they will do it just because you have asked, but it doesn’t hurt to ask? Then ask! Occasionally events and circumstances will arise beyond your knowledge or control that might cause a decision maker to say “Yes” simply because they have been asked. 5. Look between the lines and below the surface. If it involves contracts ask about the small print; have a lawyer skilled in this area review the contract; ask around about how the decision makers or the organization they represent have behaved in the past, 6. Everything is negotiable. If you ask and are told “No” ask them what might bring them to “Yes”. Even better, if you have done your research you may already have that information. 7. Turning a “no” to a “yes”. Sometimes you can get to a “Yes” if you make concessions in other areas that the decision makers might find of value in a way you might not have thought of. This, of course, works both ways. Possibly they might make concessions in other areas that you might find of value but they might not. 8. Never offer exclusivity unless you must. Check contracts for this especially for second or third parties involved in a project. You may get along with the primary decision but do you want to be imprisoned in a “bad” business relationship with a second or third party you do not know and cannot control? I think not. 9. Indemnification: In many situations, damage, loss or injury can arise. Are you prepared for this? 10. Beware of anyone who does not believe in barter at any time, negotiating, or discussing changes to contracts or addendums. There will be times when language needs to be added to contracts or other agreements. Make sure this is a possibility if needed. By applying these simple tips within the context of game thinking we can learn to eliminate many problems before they become complex.



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He is  founder of the RealUGuru Project Think Tank is a is a life coach, peak performance expert, writer, mentor, content-rich, motivational speaker, and an entrepreneur specializing in problem solving and strategizing  based on game thinking, applied game theory and Game Thinking.

He is the author of over twenty-two books published in five languages.

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Winning the Game of Life



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