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Applying Life Coaching and Game Theory to Your Daily LIfe

Once one understands the fundamentals of game thinking the next step is to put it into action. In order to be a master strategist one needs to become familiar with “game language”.


The concept of game language is an essential element of game thinking.  Game language is a type of dialect. It is a specifically defined and rigidly applied organization of words and non-verbal cues (including body language) communicating detailed specific ideas in a highly defined, specialized group.  Put more simply, if you get three individuals together and have them interact consistently, they will, in time, create a specialized language. This is not a complex or difficult concept to understand. If you are a football fan, a ballroom dancer or listen to Rap music there is a specialized dialect reflecting each of these ways of thinking.

If you spoke Pig Latin as a child, then you have already used a specialized language game. In Pig Latin, which by the way has no connection to pigs or Latin, the first consonant (or consonant cluster) is moved to the end of the word and an ay is added; thus, computer yields omputer-cay and  pig yields ig-pay). The object in this language game is to conceal the meaning of the words from others not familiar with the rules.  Essentially Pig Latin is a specialized language game which is used only for its English connotations as a “strange and foreign-sounding language.”  A side note – Pig Latin is not just for kids. Apparently, historical researchers have discovered that Thomas Jefferson wrote letters to friends in Pig Latin.

I began to explore the structure of games I also began to consider how the words we use influence each person’s reality. I wrote what I understood about the mind and how it uses language to create reality. I asked myself, “Can the mind think without language?” Where do feelings fit into this? My thoughts unfolded as such:

  • All human beings think.
  • Every thought has a physical response.
  • The link or bridge between thought and behavior is language (specifically language composed of words, numbers, and symbols).
  • Each person’s experience of the world is defined by the way they think and use language.
  • There is little objective  reality in life. What we generally experience is the collective reality created through common meanings given to commonly used words and phrases through ordinary living.
  • Much of this language used in ordinary life is based on the words and other communication skills learned from observing and interacting with others living in common ordinary and pedestrian lives.


I delved ever deeper into the concept of specialized language. This was not some idle exercise. I was exploring the life-game  I was going to create for myself and the very concept of Applied game thinking.

This led me to the writings of the philosopher, Ludwig Wittgenstein. I had been asked to study him in college but I was intellectually lost in the very first paragraph of his brilliant “Philosophical Investigations”.  His earlier book,  “Tractatus Logico Philosophicus” was even less accessible to my unformed intellect. It wasn’t that his ideas were that difficult to understand, but it was my own thinking that was clouded and unfocused.  Rereading his work opened a door in my head that made all I had been exploring in game theory come together.  His ideas served as a “skeleton key,” enabling me to understand any idea or belief if viewed through the “lens” of GT.

With an understanding ofk game language, one has the opportunity to choose how to live in the context of Applied game thinking – by rules, codes, and standards. One can decide whether he or she wishes to live a pedestrian life of habit and reaction or experience a life of purpose. No matter what life game we choose to create for ourselves, the words and phrases we use will influence the social, emotional, and intellectual experiences we have and set the fundamental patterns of our lives.

An ordinary person will use the pedestrian language required to play an ordinary game, as they live that type of life.  An extraordinary person cannot survive in such an environment. They need, to live an extraordinary life with others with similar needs. They create the game language required to engage a strategy related to such a game.

Each of us will be ordinary at times and extraordinary at other times, but there are some who are on a journey to be extraordinary as often and consistently as possible. For such a person, the game they choose and the players they choose to play with will define how ordinary or extraordinary the game they create will be, and how specialized the language used will be in order to play that game. In my mind, it takes an extraordinary individual to decide to live life as a game and do so for the purpose of making the world a better place to live.  Let me define the ordinary and the extraordinary person via game thinking.

   An Ordinary player: A person who unconsciously behaves in a basic manner without concern for clarity of thought and spiritual intention. This person acts out general social norms in their daily life habitually, only changing their behavior to match changes in these social norms. They are not generally concerned with moral or ethical dilemmas and seldom examine the meaning of their lives. They question little and have concern for less.

   An Extraordinary player: Any person that consciously behaves in a simple and basic manner as they act out general social norms when appropriate in their daily life. They seldom or never do so habitually. The extraordinary person will change their behavior to match changes in these social norms if it serves their own actualization process and society as a whole. They are concerned with moral or ethical dilemmas and often examine the meaning of their lives, questioning much, and with great concern.

It is essential that you seek out, as well as study in detail the lives passionate of   and extraordinary individuals.   They will   influence your life as a game thinker in many important ways.





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