How Wellness Coaches Solve Problems with Intuitive Solutions
Most people think logic and rational thinkers are the best problem solvers. The best Life Coaches and Wellness consultants know that intuition is a powerful tool for finding solutions.
Children usually play games as a diversion or for amusement, but as we get older we begin to engage in games of a more serious nature. Many of these games are designed to help us survive, prosper, or win competitively over an opponent or opponents. Other games are created as a means of transcending some obstacle, or to solve a problem. In order to play a game, a person must have some basic skills. Since all games are not necessarily competitive, some games may not require skills to win, but only to play. Such games are known as games of chance. As with all games, these games are based on some system of interactions between players, or one player and one object, such as a card or a ball.
Once you decide to live life as if it is a big game, you have a working model for creating greater benefits such as love, freedom, happiness, spiritual contentment and abundance. In order to win effectively, you must understand which particular game of life you are playing. There are theologians, philosophers, psychologists, politicians, neurobiologists, economic behaviorists, military strategists, athletic coaches, physicists, entrepreneurs and mathematicians who research and study this all day long. We are starting here with a very basic concept. The concept that life is a game and the more you understand the rules of the game and play well, the more you will win the game. In some games, there will only be one winner. In other games, everybody wins.
Some people are resistant to the way I have chosen to use the concept of games. They express that using the word “game” to describe something serious like raising a child, having a parent die, or defining how one is supposed to treat starving refugees is disturbing to them. My use of the word “game” to describe a systematic approach to life is not meant to diminish the seriousness of any of these things. Calling each a “game” simply makes it easier for some individuals to grasp these concepts and place the raw life experience associated with each into an understandable form. We all play games daily. Any systematic activity – from table manners to having sex, or going to church, temple, mosque or prayer room – could be considered a game. There are time-management games, priority-planning games, and goal-development games. We all create formal supportive relationships with others based on a systematic approach to life. These are games as well.
Some games are so serious we even create rites, rituals, and ceremonies. For them, games of this type might have rules and guidelines for how they need to be conducted. Governments use the term “war games” to describe a very serious activity with consequences of life and death; there are rules and regulations related to human rights, the treatment of civilians in war, ethical rules in politics, and rules on how to create a wedding or funeral. As you can see from these examples, any organized series of rules and regulations where human interaction is involved can be called a “game.” You can use any word you wish instead of “game”. I’ll continue to use the common phrase, “playing the game of life.”
The key to solving any problem is to understand how the problem came to be. One of my books, a translation of the classic Chinese text the Tao te Ching consistently promotes the idea that the best way to deal with a big problem is to address it when it is a small problem. Here are some tips for solving a basic problem:
- Define the problem
- Can you solve it alone or do you require experts?
- Is there a specific group or person, who can make that problem disappear?
- If there is such a person ask them to remove the obstacle. It is unlikely that they will do it just because you have asked, but it doesn’t hurt to ask? Then ask! Occasionally events and circumstances will arise beyond your knowledge or control that might cause a decision maker to say “Yes” simply because they have been asked.
- Look between the lines and below the surface. If it involves contracts ask about the small print; have a lawyer skilled in this area review the contract; ask around about how the decision makers or the organization they represent have behaved in the past,
- Everything is negotiable. If you ask and are told “No” ask them what might bring them to “Yes”. Even better, if you have done your research you may already have that information.
- Turning a “no” to a “yes”. Sometimes you can get to a “Yes” if you make concessions in other areas that the decision makers might find of value in a way you might not have thought of. This, of course, works both ways. Possibly they might make concessions in other areas that you might find of value but they might not.
- Never offer exclusivity unless you must. Check contracts for this especially for second or third parties involved in a project. You may get along with the primary decision but do you want to be imprisoned in a “bad” business relationship with a second or third party you do not know and cannot control? I think not.
- Indemnification: In many situations, damage, loss or injury can arise. Are you prepared for this?
- Beware of anyone who does not believe in barter at any time, negotiating, or discussing changes to a contracts or addendums. There will be times when language needs to be added to contracts or other agreements. Make sure this is a possibility if needed.
By applying these simple tips within the context of game thinking we can learn to eliminate many problems before they become complex.
In Game Thinking, whenever possible it is best to solve problems through inductive and deductive reasoning or at the very minimum focused on logical and rational models. Many problems, such as ones best addressed through pattern language* are built around paradox, contradiction, and ambiguity. With these problems the more a logical the approach the less likely one is to find solutions. Here, it is the ability to immediately access and apprehend intuitive knowledge without the use of reason that will make the resolution of a problem obvious. Intuition implies the ability to understand something immediately through instinctive feeling, without the need for conscious reasoning.
How can we intentionally connect to our intuition? Intuition may show up in many forms but researchers find that it is generally experienced in three specific ways, through:
- Physical sensations (kinesthetic)
2. Emotions and feelings
3. Symbols and images (mental)
Some individuals can see an indicator (a cue) or indicators in a particular environment where a wise and reasonable reaction or decision would be needed. This would automatically bring intuition into play. There is no use in seeking a logical explanation here. An individual with great intuitive gifts cannot explain what their intuitive experience is like. The more intuitive an individual is the less likely they are to be able to describe why they reacted or what prompted them at the time of the event to tap into their intuition. Some highly intuitive individuals can retrospectively plot their daily actions by recognizing clear and present cues and informational signals in the surrounding environment – cues that a less intuitive individual would never notice. Such an individual can make relatively fast decisions without having to compare options. And when presented with time pressures, high risk, and a changing environment, they can use intuition to identify similar situations and choose feasible solutions.
Most intuitives have the ability to recognize cues. Cues are types of signals. Some individuals are able to subconsciously recognize nonverbal facial cues (signals) and body language in others and respond quickly to these cues without much rational thought.
Logical problem-solving and intuitive approaches do not need to be in conflict. There are ways of integrating a systematic approach to making a decision with the intuitive approach. Two of the most well-known ways of doing this are the Recognition-Primed Decision (RPD) model and Decision Analysis or D. A.
The Recognition-Primed Decision (RPD) model is a blend of intuition and analysis and explains how people can make relatively quick decisions without the need to compare the various options available to them. In the Recognition-Primed Decision (RPD) an individual with an expertise in a specific area of knowledge or experience may transcend the limitations presented by time pressures, extreme risk, and ever-changing boundaries and ground rules. Such an individual is able to accomplish this by using their life experience to identify and model similar situations and obstacles and intuitively choose the easiest and most feasible solutions.
Decision Analysis* is a form of Game theory which offers a formal systematic approach to making decisions. It consists of philosophy, theory, and methodology. Comparative Studies have shown that choices made through Decision Analysis are more accurate and more often than those made exclusively with intuition.
So one can say that Decision Analysis is superior to using intuition alone in making decisions or choosing a course of action. Of course, the point is not to say that one approach is superior to the other. The key here is to use intuition in an extraordinary way. The extraordinary person knows how to integrate the two.
Also, it is important to keep in mind that intuition is more than a review of courses of action or simply trusting an inner feeling. With intuition, a person may subconsciously explore past experiences and match patterns from the past in relation to present situations. Through this matching process, they are able to quickly choose the most effective and most easily applied course of action. It is mental simulation that presents the analysis aspect of a process which is conscious and deliberate
Often it is difficult to know if our intuition is correct, especially when the evidence indicates otherwise. Most of the time we will not act on what our intuition presents us with if the option offered seems totally irrational. On the other hand, the brightest among us will often tie ourselves up in intellectual and philosophical knots attempting to make the best decision on a purely logical or rational basis. We focus on what seems, rational, probable and sensible ignoring what our inner voice is telling us.
In solving a problem one need not choose between logic and intuition? It is not one or the other. If we choose what the mind tells us we soon find that untangling these mental knots requires more than simple deductive arguments. One cannot just point out the problems associated with some particular position. Instead, we must divert our attention from our problems long enough
to become aware of our emotional agendas and beneath
that, our inner intuitive sensibilities. When you have looked at all the variables, talked to the experts, applied the algorithms and still not come to a clear conclusion it is time to surrender to intuition. In such a situation it is intuition that will guide us in the right direction.
With some problems, we may not be able to logically understand what intuition may be guiding us towards. One cannot easily possess information based knowledge without a clear inference or the use of reason. Still few would doubt that we sometimes have an immediate apprehension of an object by the mind without any reasoning process. Here intuition is an effective yet irrational way of gaining knowledge. Intuition provides us with beliefs that we cannot necessarily justify, and yet at crucial junctures in life, we often make intuitive choices with very positive results.
At times we all use intuition without really knowing what it is. No one really knows what is authentically intuitive and what only seems like intuition. Either way, there is this sense that gives us the ability to recognize nonverbal cues from others. When a person finely hones these intuitive senses they will gain access to know valid solutions to many problems.
If you have an interest in having a basic understanding of Applied Game Theory (and you need to) here is an interview I did with James Selman, a pioneer and innovator in Leadership research.
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