One Person Can Make A Positive Difference In The World. Here Is One Important Person Who Has
I have a coaching client who is often depressed and does not know what to do with her life. She is of financial means, has a loving family and is a person of great intellect and with a compassionate nature. Still, she has a sense of aimlessness that no amount of coaching and mentoring seems to help.
One day she asked me ”What should I do? ”She has been asking me this question for twenty odd years.
My answer is always the same “Do something that makes a positive difference!”
It really is that basic. We focus so much on ourselves that we lose touch with how important making a positive difference can be.
The problem is that it is hard to think and act in the service of others when we spend all of our time thinking about ourselves.
Many of us are emotionally paralyzed. How can one do anything when imprisoned in an inflated sense of our own importance. Many of us have a deep need for excessive attention and admiration. Because of this we have lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of extreme confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism. This really costs us in the long run. We end up alone, have troubled relationships, and little support when we most need it.
This personality style causes problems in many areas of life, such as work, relationships, financial affairs and school. Individuals who think this way are unhappy and disappointed when they’re not given the special favors or admiration they believe they deserve. Generous, compassionate and critically thinking people may not enjoy being around them and they may find their relationships unfulfilling. In the end, the only friend they have are their Facebook friends.
Are you one of these people.
Check off “Yes” or “No’ to the list of patterns based on diagnostic charts concerning narcissism compiled by the Mayo Clinic. If there are more than 3 or 4 “yes” answers you may have a problem.
- Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
- Be preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
- Have an exaggerated sense of self-importance
- Behave in an arrogant or haughty manner, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious
- Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
- Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office
- Exaggerate achievements and talents
- Believe they are superior and can only associate with equally special people
- Be envious of others and believe others envy them
- Expect special favors and unquestioning compliance with their expectations
- Take advantage of others to get what they want
- Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration
- Have secret feelings of insecurity, shame, vulnerability, and humiliation
- Monopolize conversations and belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior
- Have trouble handling anything they perceive as criticism
- Become impatient or angry when they don’t receive special treatment
- Have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted
- Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection
- React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior
- Have difficulty regulating emotions and behavior
- Experience major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change
What to do? Make a difference. Volunteer, call friends to see how they are, contribute anonymously to worthy causes. People who are extremely self -involved may not want to think that anything could be wrong, so they may be unlikely to do anything about it. If they do seek help, it’s more likely to be for something else possibly the symptoms of depression, drug or alcohol use, or a mental health problem. But perceived insults to their ego may make it difficult to accept suggestions for their obvious personality challenges.
Below is a wonderful article about one woman who made a major difference and found justice for the powerless in spite of the resistance of the Irish government and the Irish Catholic Church.
This article will anger you, empower you and possibly even motivate you to act so you too can make a difference.
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