Exploring Personal Growth, Human Potential, and issues of Importance in Life Coaching
Q. How can I create the support I need to be more effective in my life?
A. In the process of problem-solving and making effective choices it is invaluable to have a collaborative support team to eliminate unnecessary struggle and to maximize human potential. Within the Wisdom Path Community, we often speak of “support triangles” (ST). A support triangle is any group of three people who come together in the agreement to consistently support each other in being extraordinary. Usually, these groups meet weekly or monthly to motivate, inform, and inspire each other.
We all need a sense of community and what can be better than a group of people with a common proactive vision? Because of the push and pull of daily living as well as the reactive and negative messages around us, it is easy to have breakdowns in maintaining consistency in the fulfillment of our visions. One of the core natural laws that guide our behavior is the desire to connect with others, to create community. The Support Triangle is a powerful tool for creating productive, effective, and abundant environments.
Effective support triangles can help anyone transcend a personal crisis. Many people have very difficult lives and are truly committed to being more effective in every way. Humans by nature get some gratification from helping or serving others. It is often true that one person’s effort is more or less insignificant unless he or she is linked with others, all striving to the same end.
The concept of a support triangle is actually based on models called “Master Mind Groups*”. This concept was developed by Napoleon Hill, author of the book “Think and Grow Rich.” Hill defined the mastermind as a “coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony, between two or more people, for the attainment of a definite purpose.” His concept of the “Master Mind” was inspired by Andrew Carnegie, a wealthy steel magnate who was his mentor. According to Hill:
“Mr. Carnegie’s Master Mind group consisted of a staff of approximately fifty men with whom he surrounded himself for the DEFINITE PURPOSE of manufacturing and marketing steel. He attributed his entire fortune to the POWER he accumulated through this ‘Master Mind.’”
Since the publication of Think and Grow Rich in 1937, the idea of mastermind groups has grown and evolved to become a staple tool of many successful and influential individuals. There are many benefits to having a supportive mastermind group.
- You have a group of people to help you succeed.
- You get the benefit of differing perspectives, input, and feedback.
- They can bring you resources and connections that you might not have had..
- You receive accountability and inspiration from the group, thus enabling you to maintain focus in achieving your goals.
Napoleon Hill went so far as to say there was a mystical quality created when a mastermind group was formed. He said: “No two minds ever come together without, thereby, creating a third, invisible, intangible force which may be likened to a third mind.” In other words, your ability to create things in the world is increased by having that invisible “third mind” of the mastermind group. Clearly he understood the concept of synergy*.
Within the Wisdom Path and throughout all of my writings on the importance of forming Support Triangles is often spoken of. It is recommended that as each of us explore game-based thinking we:
- Always seek out individuals with a positive attitude who are also seeking to improve the quality of their lives, are good listeners, and who seem to have some basic common sense.
- Introspect but still connect. Realize that many friends (and strangers who will become your friends) are truly and earnestly eager to help you at this time, even if they have never discussed such a subject with you. Don’t be a loner. Reach out to others.
- When connecting with individuals and groups with a positive attitude who are also seeking to improve the quality of their lives, share the concept of a Support Triangle without pinning people down to joining. Mention how common the concept is in most societies. Speak of the simplicity of the work required–just an hour or two once per week, or per month.
- Always keep in touch with the members of your Support Triangle. As the one who has formed the Triangle, it is your responsibility to keep your two partners interested until they are firmly established in the rhythm of my own mentoring and coaching process.
- Encourage members of your triangle to form other triangles. Your own leadership qualities can be developed and expanded by taking on the responsibility of encouraging them to do so. Bring this matter to their attention and provide whatever help and inspiration you can to support their efforts. It is only in this way that the “garden of visionary seeds” that you are planting can grow and spread from support triangle to support triangle with little effort.
- Expand beyond one triangle. This reduces the chance that you or others will form cliques.
As your work within a Support Network expands and produces greater benefits it should become increasingly easy for you and the members of your triangle to experience miracles of abundance, love, freedom and self-actualization. These miracles were always there but have become visible through the magnifying power of Support Triangles. The personal example of a life lived in right relationship with others is inspiring and infectious.
Thanks to technology and social networking it is not necessary for the members of your Support Triangle to live in the same place as yourself. A can conduct conference calls, a three-way phone call, or make use of cutting-edge technology to facilitate the process. You can also form of Support Triangles for business brainstorming, one for sexual issues, one for personal healing, and one for multi-cultural interaction. Multi-cultural support triangles can open you to an entirely new reality. There you can create and expand intellectual and social interactions with individuals of different races, religions, and cultures. In this way you will also will expand your world view. Here you can reduce the chance that you will unexpectedly accept racial or ethnic stereotypes in your life or allow them to breed and spread through you onto others. A person committed to this idea must rely heavily on the knowledge of others.
Ultimately we must first understand knowledge within the context of our understanding of reality in order to apply it successfully. We cannot let fear of the unknown or the irrational demands or expectations of others to interference in our judgment. This is especially so if we want to create and live the best life that we possibly can.
Being extraordinary requires a dedication to logic and reason, a well-honed intuition, the freedom to act on one’s choices, the wisdom to seek wise counsel, and more than anything else, an effective Support Triangle to make life more abundant for everyone.
I like to think of support triangles like a huge pizza pie. Each triangular slice has different toppings representing unique personalities, styles, talents, and perspectives on life and living that create the whole pie.
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