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What is the Meaning of Normal, and How Can I Become Normal

 

 

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What is the meaning of life, and how can being different than everyone else help you to survive, and prosper.

 

Q. Lewis,  I always feel like an outsider in almost every situation. I what to be normal but I don’t know how to do this or even what the word “normal” means. Can you help clarify this for me?

 

A. No. I’m not normal and neither is anyone else (though lots of people fake it).

I read an article today about a gay couple who were struggling to find non-gender-specific wedding decorations or invitations. They speak of the difficulty of living in a heteronormative world, and how they really felt the sting of being outsiders when organizing their wedding. The keyword here is “normal”. They live in a reality either chosen or not, where they are not the “norm”.

 

 

At one point they say “It would be like going to the store and you want Corn Pops, but you can never find Corn Pops; it’s always the off-brand Corn Pops. It works, it cuts it, but it’s not exactly what you wanted,”

The thing is, this is not just an issue for gay folks. It’s an issue for everybody because there really are no such things as normal. There is conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected way of thinking, speaking, and behaving, but this is a minimal standard. In our private lives, behind closed doors, we are all a bit eccentric, strange, weird, or bizarre in some way. That is the human condition.

 

 

 

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So what does it mean to be “normal

No one will have the same interpretation of “normal”. It is an abstract concept. We all have a different set of experiences, a different make-up, and a different viewpoint about things. At the most fundamental level  normal is a combination of the following variables depending on the context:

Normal is…

  • Average

  • Common

  • Comfortable

  • Complacent

  • Content

  • Ordinary

  • Typical

  • Uninspired

 

 

I have come to terms with the fact that most people are satisfied with being “normal” in many elements of their lives. I say “OK”.  This often means that that they do not value that area enough to put forth the extra effort it takes to escape “normal”.

Of course, one of the most rewarding things that we can experience is excelling at something, achieving that state over and beyond “normal”. The achievement of this is what often frees us to do extraordinary things with our lives. For this reason, I recommend to my clients and students do everything in their power to avoid normalcy.

Still, the more extraordinary we are the more we are likely to be presented or confronted

By the normative world. It may be a Judeo-Christian, gender, Islamo, or heteronormative world, but if you are not a reflection of the dominant culture there will always be a lot of settling — a lot of making do or DIY-ing something to make it suit your needs. It’s may seem hurtful in a way to have to do that when the option isn’t available to you but most of the time, options are limited unless you are willing to slide out of the cultural ghetto of your own creation where you have gotten stuck.

I have no judgment here I’m just observing and commenting about hose two lesbians who want to get married and can’t get what they need. (This might be a good business opportunity for them). Believe me,  have my eccentric secrets as well, you don’t want to know the….  and I’m not sharing them with you.

In the last fifty years (since Stonewall) we have seen major strides in rights and inclusion for those who have been marginalized. This isn’t just an LGBTQ reality. It also relates to the disabled, those with mental illness, black people (I got laughed at by a couple of black kids at the mall for saying African-American), and Native Americans. Same-sex marriage has been legalized, there are now laws that ban discrimination based on sexual orientation, there has been an extension survivor pension benefits to same-sex couples. Still, some complain that normativity — what a dominant culture or group considers the norm — continues to shape how those outsides of the mainstream are treated in their everyday lives.

I don’t have a solution to this problem. I do know that one approach is to as kind, loving, compassionate, empathetic, and tolerant, as possible. I don’t know that I can understand truly what it means to be G, L, B, T, or Q since I do not fit these definitions. I imagine I am disabled in some ways but not in ways that are obvious to the dominant culture. I am not Native American, really tall, really short, really obese, or really thin. In most observable ways, I am “normal” though of course, that really has no real meaning.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Still, I don’t have enormous sympathy, for people who choose to live an alternative lifestyle whatever that may be, and are not activists in some way, shape or form.  People are tribal, they like what is familiar to them, makes them feel secure, and comfortable and what they have decided is normal. They are also often competitive, dogmatic, and hierarchal. If you do not fit the norm, don’t get angry, don’t get upset, and don’t take it personally.

Become an activist, get a lawyer and sue, or simply do what I and my wife did. We moved into a neighborhood where virtually everyone is either;

  • An immigrant,
  • GLBTQ,
  • Is covered in Tatoos,
  • Is gender fluid,
  • A vegan,
  • An atheist or into Wiccan,
  • A Twelve Stepper,
  • Wears a Bhurka
  • Has a purple Mohawk Haircut (Is this offensive to actual Mohawk people?).

To paraphrase an old quote about Xmas. “Yes Virginia, there really is a normal, I just haven’t figured out what it is.

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